In what could be a first for the blog, this week’s
Thursday Confession is going to be split into two parts over two separate days!
It wasn’t intentionally planned this way, but
looking at what my intended confession for today was, and looking at the planned
topic for Friday is scheduled to be, there are quite a few parallels between
the two. So, stay tuned over the course
of the next 48 hours because this week will be a double confession.
To kick off the first part of this two-part event,
I’d like each of you to take a look at this picture.
For those of you who have used Facebook or
Twitter, you’ve likely seen this image floating around. People have a whole slew of opinions
regarding this picture, and my opinion will be shared in this blog entry. After all, it ties in to my confession for
today.
THURSDAY
CONFESSION #15:
When it comes to physical beauty in women, I have this to say. Natural beauty, healthy living, and having a
positive attitude about aging gracefully are qualities I find incredibly sexy.
Women are being bombarded by images of what
Hollywood declares to be “perfect”. You
see it all the time in film, television, magazines, and Times Square billboards. But in recent years, we’re seeing a rather
shocking and alarming trend.
Take the image that I posted up above. I want all of you to study the top row of
that photo. On the top row, you have
from left to right, Heidi Montag, Nicole Richie, Keira Knightley, and Kirsten
Dunst. Do you notice something in common
with all of them?
This seems to be a common trend with the
media. Over the last twenty years, it
seems as though actresses and models are a lot slimmer than normal. When I was growing up, I think that the main
supermodels were Christie Brinkley, Cindy Crawford, and Christy
Turlington. Certainly all three in their
prime were quite stunning (and for that matter, still are as of 2012). But, when you compare those models to the
likes of Nicole Richie and Keira Knightley, they almost appear like they are
plus-size models in comparison.
And, that’s not a good thing, as far as I’m
concerned.
Now, granted, I realize that people do come in all
shapes and sizes, and have differing metabolisms. It’s entirely possible that the people up on
the top row are just naturally slim. I
knew someone who had the same build that ate constantly, and just couldn’t gain
weight. That’s not exactly what I’m
concerned about.
My concern lies with the fact that the world of
fashion and cosmetics seem to have the idea that this is the “norm”. According to Hollywood, it’s perfectly
“normal” to wear a size zero and weigh less than ninety-seven pounds. Or, at least that is the impression that I
seem to get by watching television in recent years, anyway.
But this way of thinking isn’t normal at all. It’s not normal for the vast majority of
women out there in the world.
The quest for perfection in Hollywood is in my
opinion an impossible dream. There’s no
way to achieve perfection, and those who even try to achieve it usually end up
getting hurt. There have been so many
cases of people developing eating disorders such as bulimia and anorexia, and
some have even died from these diseases (such as Karen Carpenter pictured above).
The abuse of over-the-counter diet pills can also be stemmed from the
impossibly high standards of the entertainment industry.
The end result for some of these women is frankly,
quite disappointing. Sure, they’ve
managed to squeeze into a tiny dress, but in many photos I’ve seen, it’s not
very flattering. In some cases, they
have gone way overboard, and look as if they are dead on the inside. And to me, I don’t find anything beautiful
about women killing themselves to attain a standard of beauty that at the most,
only 1% of the global population can realistically achieve. Frankly, I am more disturbed than turned on.
Now compare the images on the top row of the
picture to the images on the bottom row.
In case you’re wondering, the women on the bottom row are Bettie Page,
Shirley Jones, Elizabeth Taylor, and Marilyn Monroe. Granted, I realize that this is just my own
personal preference, but I find the images on the bottom to be much sexier than
the images up top. The reason why I feel
this way? Well, I admit that it’s more
of a personal opinion than fact, but I’m going to come out with it. The women on the bottom row look much
healthier, and their natural curviness makes them look absolutely
gorgeous.
Yes, everyone has their own idea of what true
beauty is, and I’m sure that some men would look at any of these women and find
them absolutely sexy. I just happen to
like women who have curves, and don’t mind showing them off. I’d rather see a woman shrug off the fact
that she has a few extra pounds on her frame than to see her end up killing
herself trying to achieve a body image that is near impossible to get.
On that note, this brings me to my next
argument. Many women (and even a few
men) have gone under the knife to have cosmetic surgery in order to look
anywhere from four to forty years younger than they really are.
As far as my attitude towards plastic surgery
goes, I admit that I have mixed feelings about it. I do admit that there are some cases in which
I support plastic surgery. If you’re
badly burned, have a tattoo that you want removed, or elect to get
reconstructive surgery following a mastectomy, I’d consider those to be great
reasons to go under the knife. I’d even
support someone going in for plastic surgery if they had a positive attitude
about it, and if they were getting the work done for themselves and not for
anybody else. I also respect people like
Jeanne Cooper from “The Young and the Restless” for showing viewers the realism
behind the surgery. In 1984, when Cooper announced that she was getting a face lift done, it was decided that her character, Katherine Chancellor, would get one too, and the show actually showed the procedure on air!
So, I admit that there are some understandable reasons
why people have consulted with plastic surgeons. But for the most part, I don’t believe that
most women NEED to have it done at all.
Maybe I’m in the minority, but whatever happened
to aging gracefully? To me, what I find
beautiful about people of an older demographic are those people who are proud
of every line, wrinkle, and age spot they have developed through the
years. Sure, they might try to conceal
them with age defying creams and cosmetics, but at the end of the day when the
make-up comes off and the lines and wrinkles remain, they tell the story of a
life well-lived.
I find that beautiful.
I mean, don’t get me wrong, I love and appreciate
a beautiful woman as much as any guy here...but I also have a soft spot for
real natural beauty. Actually, I want to
change that. I get incredibly turned on
by natural beauty.
It really saddens me that some women feel a need
to enhance their already beautiful selves with plastic surgery. If you want a perfect example of what I mean
by this, look at Heidi Montag. I’ll
admit that I never watched “The Hills”, so I never knew who she was until a
couple of years ago. Two years ago,
Montag’s name was plastered all over entertainment magazines and news shows
detailing the near dozen procedures she had done...at TWENTY-THREE years
old! Twenty-three! I’m of the mind that most 53-year-old women
look fine without surgery, let alone twenty-three! The really tragic thing about Heidi Montag
was that before she had the work done, she was absolutely stunning. Now, I feel that the natural beauty she once
had is now lost and replaced with a manufactured, plastic look. To many men, I imagine that she is still
gorgeous, but unfortunately, I liked her old look.
But, what do you expect from a world where shows
like “Entertainment Tonight” do entire exposes on celebrities who have
cellulite? Who cares? Cellulite is not contagious, nor should it be
treated like it is a form of leprosy!
Everyone has it. Hell, I’ll bet I
have it!
(Not that I’m going to post photographic evidence
of that fact, as I don’t want to scare any followers of this blog away.)
Believe it or not, as a man, I have also
experienced the pressure to look a certain way.
It’s not just women who get bombarded by images of “perfection”. We men get it as well. If we don’t have hairless bodies, 6-pack abs,
or look good in a tiny black Speedo, then we best kill ourselves right
now. Doesn’t that sound absolutely
ridiculous to you? I know it does to me!
I guess the point I’m trying to make is that I do
believe that society puts too much pressure on us to look a certain way. I realize that we all have our own ideas
about what a “good-looking” person is, and that they all differ. But, that’s what’s beautiful about it. In the end, we all have something inside
ourselves that can be called beautiful.
I have the utmost respect for anyone who can take
any flaws they may have, and embrace them to their fullest. And really, if they see their snaggletoothed
smile as beautiful, does that really make it flawed? I don’t see it as such.
I guess the point I’m trying to make is that I
find people who can look at themselves in the mirror and love themselves for
who they are no matter what size they are, or how many scars they have, or how
much (or how little) hair they have to be absolutely amazing. I
believe that the true beauty in all of us comes from within. If we can find a way to love ourselves for
who we are, then I find that incredibly beautiful.
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