June 4, 2014
First things first...I just realized that this is post 1,111! Freaky!
Anyway...
I don't know whether I can call this a blessing or a curse, but as far back as I can remember, I've had lessons having to do with common sense and etiquette drilled into my head. And, when you're growing up as a child, sometimes it's hard for us to understand why we follow these lessons in life. In fact, I think that it's not until we hit adulthood that things really begin to sink in and we understand why we do them.
Anyway...
I don't know whether I can call this a blessing or a curse, but as far back as I can remember, I've had lessons having to do with common sense and etiquette drilled into my head. And, when you're growing up as a child, sometimes it's hard for us to understand why we follow these lessons in life. In fact, I think that it's not until we hit adulthood that things really begin to sink in and we understand why we do them.
Some of them seem incredibly simple
enough. When you're walking with somebody
else on the sidewalk and you see somebody else walking down the same sidewalk
in the opposite direction, you walk in single file so that the other person can
pass by you without having to sidestep onto the grass or the road. When you're going through a door and someone
else is directly behind you, you hold the door open for them. When you're stopped at an intersection in
your car, and you happen to see someone else waiting to cross at the crosswalk,
you let the pedestrian cross first before you drive off.
These are all little things that anybody can do to show somebody else respect. And, you know what? In this open letter to everyone who might be reading this letter, I have to say that I'm a little bit annoyed at the total lack of respect that some people seem to have towards other people these days. Forget about chivalry being dead. In my experience, people seem to have completely forgotten how to show even the slightest amount of respect towards their peers, and I think it's a real crying shame.
These are all little things that anybody can do to show somebody else respect. And, you know what? In this open letter to everyone who might be reading this letter, I have to say that I'm a little bit annoyed at the total lack of respect that some people seem to have towards other people these days. Forget about chivalry being dead. In my experience, people seem to have completely forgotten how to show even the slightest amount of respect towards their peers, and I think it's a real crying shame.
I mean, you see these sorts of things all the
time. You see people so absorbed with
their smartphones that they tune out everything and everyone around them. You see people typing out insults and
profanities on Facebook or Twitter to somebody else simply because you don't
like what they post on their own pages.
Things like that are just plain rude and should never be tolerated under
any circumstances whatsoever.
But then again, I look at some of the instances of really bad behaviour that happens in public gathering spots, and I can't help but think of a phrase that somebody told me a long time ago. And, it's a phrase that I have taken with me since I basically graduated high school.
But then again, I look at some of the instances of really bad behaviour that happens in public gathering spots, and I can't help but think of a phrase that somebody told me a long time ago. And, it's a phrase that I have taken with me since I basically graduated high school.
"LEAD BY EXAMPLE".
Now, I'll be the first to admit that I haven't
always been a believer in this phrase.
I think the first eighteen years of my life were such that I was not
seen as a leader. I honestly didn't
even see MYSELF as a leader in anything.
I certainly had a difficult time understanding the concept of how respect
actually worked. I mean, I was always
taught to respect my peers and my elders, always say please and thank you, and
all that jazz. But when you're a kid,
and you're trying to get approval from the people you attend school with, only
to get a complete lack of respect in return...well, let's just say that it took
a lot of time for me to develop my own sense of self-respect.
Because let's face it. I know I've said
this before about the concept of love.
But if you can't respect yourself at the end of the day, then how in the
world can you respect other people?
Seriously. Just think about that
question for a minute. I don't mind. I'm patient.
Okay, now that you've had a minute or two to think about self-respect, let us
continue our discussion, shall we?
I think that in this world, we all owe it to ourselves to take a step back and determine whether or not we're actually being as respectful as we would like to be. And, I think that we all have a responsibility to ourselves to lead by example in that regard. If we show the world that we are capable of treating our fellow man or woman with dignity, compassion, kindness, and honour, then there's a really good chance of everybody paying it forward and leading the charge towards a more respectful school environment, workplace, and home life.
I think that in this world, we all owe it to ourselves to take a step back and determine whether or not we're actually being as respectful as we would like to be. And, I think that we all have a responsibility to ourselves to lead by example in that regard. If we show the world that we are capable of treating our fellow man or woman with dignity, compassion, kindness, and honour, then there's a really good chance of everybody paying it forward and leading the charge towards a more respectful school environment, workplace, and home life.
On the flipside, if you belittle people, make
them feel stupid, and completely show an utter lack of respect towards them, do
you really think that they're going to go around treating people kindly? I mean, it's really a rehash of the whole
nature vs. nurture theory (of which I am a firm believer on the side of nurture
for that debate).
I can't begin to tell you how many times I
cringe seeing how many families that I see come into the store I work at and
seeing so many parents screaming at their kids to behave, and then buying them
whatever they want whether they deserved them or not. I tell you, if I had pitched a fit inside of a store when I was
six, I would have been dragged back into the car and been promptly taken home -
without anything that I wanted. But of
course, when you're working on the sales floor, you can't intervene unless the
situation gets physical, and even then, you have to follow protocol to get the
situation diffused. It's so difficult
for me to see this bad behaviour from both children and their parents. I mean, if the child is too young to know
better, fine. But if your child is old
enough to know better, it's no excuse.
And, sorry to say parents...it's your job to set a good example for your own children. It's not the cashier, sales floor associates, teachers, co-workers, or the guy who runs the 7-Eleven on the corner to discipline your children. And, kids learn by example, you know. I shudder to think of what one child must have been thinking when she saw her mother tear a strip off of one of my co-workers because of a simple price discrepancy. I'm going to wager that this child is going to grow up showing her peers that same disrespect that she witnessed. And, if I were a gambling man, I'd bet more than just a pretty penny on it.
And, sorry to say parents...it's your job to set a good example for your own children. It's not the cashier, sales floor associates, teachers, co-workers, or the guy who runs the 7-Eleven on the corner to discipline your children. And, kids learn by example, you know. I shudder to think of what one child must have been thinking when she saw her mother tear a strip off of one of my co-workers because of a simple price discrepancy. I'm going to wager that this child is going to grow up showing her peers that same disrespect that she witnessed. And, if I were a gambling man, I'd bet more than just a pretty penny on it.
Honestly, when I look at my experiences
growing up, I was always taught to respect my family. Oh, mind you, I had my screamfests and rousing choruses of
"I HATE YOU"'s peppered throughout my childhood, but I never talked
back for long without getting put in my place by my father.
I should clarify that what I mean by "getting put in my place" is not by violence - well, aside from a couple of spankings, of course. Not that I advocate spankings at all, mind you.
I should clarify that what I mean by "getting put in my place" is not by violence - well, aside from a couple of spankings, of course. Not that I advocate spankings at all, mind you.
But you know, just going back to my own
experiences, the idea of respect was a foreign concept to me. Not so much with family members, but with
people who I got to know through school, or through any of the jobs that I have
worked since I turned 17. And, I don't
really need to get into detail about school, because let's face it. You've heard those stories before.
But what I will say is this. Respect is not something that you can buy at any store. You can't download it from iTunes (well, unless you purchase the song by Otis Redding or Aretha Franklin). You can't even be given respect as a graduation gift or unwrap it with the twenty-seven toasters that you receive as wedding presents. Respect is something that has to be earned.
But what I will say is this. Respect is not something that you can buy at any store. You can't download it from iTunes (well, unless you purchase the song by Otis Redding or Aretha Franklin). You can't even be given respect as a graduation gift or unwrap it with the twenty-seven toasters that you receive as wedding presents. Respect is something that has to be earned.
Sometimes we all forget where we are, and
sometimes we have a really bad day and snap at someone that we really don't
mean to. But it also takes a big man
(or woman) to swallow their pride and own up to their mistakes. Because as we all know, apologizing is a sign
of respect. Not weakness. Respect.
And, I don't care what your age is, or how
long you've been with a company, or whether you have brown eyes or blue
eyes. There's a lot of things in this
world that I can not respect.
I don't
respect people who think that their way is the only way, and refuse to take
anyone else's opinions into consideration.
I do
respect people who uses collaborative efforts to try and make everyone feel
like they are a part of a team.
I don't
respect people who hang out in their own little cliques and exclude other
people who don't fit in.
I do respect people who are welcoming to other people and will hang out with them regardless of seniority, position, or other non-important details.
I do respect people who are welcoming to other people and will hang out with them regardless of seniority, position, or other non-important details.
I don't
respect people who give attitude to other people simply because they feel like
they are entitled to do so.
I do respect people who check their egos at the door and work with people in solving a problem.
I do respect people who check their egos at the door and work with people in solving a problem.
I don't respect people who don't seem to
realize that they were once beginners at something, and who faced scrutiny by
more seasoned people (be it at a job, or on a sports team, or what have you)
when they were starting out, and then turn around and criticize new people for
everything under the sun.
I do
respect people who know exactly what it was like to be a new person (at a job,
or on a sports team, or what have you), and instead of criticizing new people,
works with them, and mentors them to become better people.
I don't respect
people who outright refuse to do work because they couldn't be bothered with
doing it.
I do respect
people who outright refuse to do work because the job is not safe. I doubly respect people who will take the
initiative to make the job safer.
I don't
respect people who pass the buck onto other people because they couldn't be
bothered to give a straight, honest answer.
I do
respect people who at least try to come to a conclusion by working with their
peers. Maybe the conclusion can't be
found, or maybe the person might not like the decision, but at least an effort
being made is something.
I do respect every single one of you for listening to my rants, raves, opinions, and thoughts over the past three years. And, believe me. All of you are winners in my book, and I respect the hell out of you for it.
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