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Friday, July 10, 2015

The Secret Language of Birthdays

So, I actually wrote this note on my Facebook notes section three years ago, and the only reason why I am reposting this is because I had a really big day yesterday (including finalizing the last minute details in buying my new home), so I don't have a whole lot of time to write a huge one.  I'll make it up to you tomorrow, I promise.

Besides, this site is quite informative.  Trust me, you'll like it.

Have you heard of the site called "The Secret Language of Birthdays"? Here's the link.

Normally, I take these birthday analysis sites with a grain of salt.  I mean, if they're anything like any of those Buzzfeed quizzes that are posted, they were more than likely written by 16-year-olds goofing off in between chemistry assignments while listening to the same One Direction song over and over again.

But after I entered my date of birth and really looked at what it said, the more I read my profile, the more sense I make.

Here's my analysis of my date of birth.  I'll comment with my own thoughts in red font.

Title: The Day of Established Activism
        Those born on May 18 are an interesting blend of tradition and liberalism. They could be described as movers and shakers with a revolutionary bent, but their primary impulse is less to overturn society than to improve it. Many born on this day are protesters, speaking out against injustice and unfairness wherever they find it. But whether political or not, May 18 people treat their work, hobbies or art in a thoroughly professional, straightforward fashion, usually preferring a clean, classical approach to a romantic, emotional one.

NOTE 1:  I am pretty mouthy when it comes to injustice, and this analysis is quite spot on when it comes to my writing.  I know nothing about romance, but I consider myself a great technical writer.

     No matter how imaginative they may be, May 18 people are highly practical. They like to get things done, and without too much fuss or bother. Their outspoken nature, however, may get them into trouble, as they are unable or unwilling to keep quiet when they encounter ignorance or prejudice. Those born on this day despise irrationality, and present a clear, logical approach to issues. In their families, May18 people tend to be the voice of reason. But as parents, those born on this day must beware of exerting a kind of rationalist tyranny over their children, in which they always know what is best for them and criticize them too severely for unwise actions.

     A danger for May 18 people is to get carried away with a cause and in doing so become as irrational as those they criticize. Those born on this day may be unaware of this tendency and when it is pointed out to them will find it difficult to accept, harder still to change. In becoming fanatical about their views they fall into an emotional trap of their own making.

Note 2:  Yep.  I have been known to get a little bit caught up in the moment and it has bit me in the butt more than once.

     May 18 people are fascinated with many facets of life—probing, testing, tasting what life has to offer. There is a certain wholeness in the feeling tone of their personalities; when you meet them you feel as if you have met a total person. This is perhaps because May 18 people usually get their own house in order before taking on the world. If they are confused or unsure of themselves in their youth, it may be their principal task to pull themselves together later in life. Those born on this day may well define life as a struggle, perhaps an inner struggle; conflict can become a way of life for them, always looking as they are for obstacles to overcome. Thus it may be difficult for them to find rest.

     While appearing to be “together” people, those born on May 18 may be somewhat out of touch with their own desires. Busy as they are with societal and family responsibilities, they often suppress legitimate personal needs, inviting unhappiness. They can be unaware that the first grey tinges of bitterness are setting in. Friends and family may serve as a mirror in this regard, and should encourage the May 18 person to express frustrations, if necessary.

Note 3:  DING DING DING!  Can we say "Match"?  Though, since I bought my home, these feelings have gotten less severe.

Balancing the above mentioned Mars-Venus energies is very important for May 18 people. Guarding against suppression of desire is part of the equation. Those born on this day often demand greater attention than most in the sexual sphere, but such demands can well be satisfied through other forms of sensual expression or the sharing of affection and tenderness. Outbursts of temper and bitterness that can accompany denial of personal needs may manifest in a host of physical symptoms including nervous and muscular imbalances of all kinds, and in the worst case scenario, strokes, high blood pressure and other cardiovascular difficulties. A partial or complete vegetarian diet can help reduce the risk of such dangers. Those born on this day should also program frequent rest periods into their schedule. Regular sleep patterns are equally important and a daily nap helpful, if it doesn’t cause sleeplessness at night.

Note 4:  What can I say?  I definitely love my sleep.  But I don't think I could ever have a meatless diet.  I love bacon WAAAY too much.

“And this, too, shall pass”

Take time off and get to know yourself better. Withdraw from the world periodically in order to recharge. Learn to heed your inner voice; be guided rather than driven. Cultivate tolerance and acceptance of others, even if you can’t suffer their ideas.

The Way of Study Personality
        Those born during the Way of Study must choose a field of endeavor or a craft and, through years of disciplined and determined effort, become authorities in their field. Blessed with brilliance, they grasp things so quickly that they often move from one topic to the next, avoiding the painstaking groundwork of thorough preparation. They must rely less on their own cleverness and set about gaining the perspective that only serious study of all facets of a subject can give them. Only then can they hope to bring a unique point of view to the world. Moreover, they are called to find principles or points of view in which they believe. Through identifying with principles or connecting with something greater than themselves, they not only fulfill their individuality but come to understand it. Their many years of solitary study or work on their craft will also provide the forum for many deep insights into their own natures.

     They spend much of their lives deep in thought. Considered by many to be brilliant, they find school easy, but they may not make the best students since they are restless and easily bored and will concoct elaborate schemes to emancipate themselves from routine.

Note 5:  Ain't that the truth!

Freedom, especially mental freedom, is important to them. Their minds roam far and wide. They love to dream up wild theories and will flit from one preoccupation to the next. Moreover, they often spend hours dreaming of romantic and far­off lands, glory, or visions of the future. A number of them are science fiction buffs. On the whole, they prefer solitary pursuits, though they do like to be surrounded by a group of unique and unusual friends as this provides endless hours of entertainment in the form of people watching.

     As distracted or wacky as they may sometimes appear to be, underneath all their mad-professor posturing is a brain that operates a bit faster than the norm. Thus, many will listen to what they have to say.

Note 6:  Too bad many DON'T!

And as much as they like to be left alone to go their own way, they truly enjoy both holding court and holding forth. What is ironic is that in their early years, often what they have to say isn’t particularly brilliant, nor is it well thought out. This is because their stubborn adherence to their own ideas and methods and their need for freedom keep them from doing the work of a real scholar. It may take being laughed out of the auditorium a few times before they begin to realize it is time to get serious. Unfortunately, such an experience may be the only thing that will help them shift their perspective to develop some goals. In their yearning for recognition, they will finally settle into the self-imposed discipline required to be true lifelong students rather than mere dilettantes.

     They must devote themselves to an area of expertise and to learn about it slowly, deliberately, and carefully. Applying a bit of determination will be necessary, since they are easily thrown off course. They are called to study the work of those who have gone before, understand the underlying principles or laws of their field, and immerse themselves in their subject so that they make it their own. They are not expected to simply memorize material or swallow it whole but must cultivate the patience to do the groundwork before they can launch their own theories or make their own contributions. It is only then that they will come to be viewed and respected as authorities on a given topic.

     Often they are able to relate to many different points of view in an argument. While this gives them a tremendous ability to assimilate and integrate huge amounts of information, they must choose one point of view. Happiness comes to them when they find principles or ideals they can identify with and live their lives by. They must move out of their theories and fantasies and bring ideas into some sort of reality for themselves. In so doing, they move closer to their goal, which is to come to understand who they are as individuals. Usually they are not really sure of who they are or what they stand for. By carefully considering what ideas or fields are attractive to them, choosing a subject or point of view, observing themselves as they engage in the process of study, and being self-aware throughout, they will come to understand who they really are. In some ways, they are, in reality, studying themselves. It is by looking in the mirror of the abstract truths they embrace that these individuals will come to see themselves, perhaps for the first time. Thus, they individuate through the process of acquiring knowledge. As they move from their universal concerns or ideas and learn to personalize them, they will discover their own myth. This becomes their heroic quest as they reconnect their core self to some greater purpose. They will stop assuming the role of know-it-all and become the voice of quiet, confident authority. From such a stance, they are bound to attract attention.

     For such self­-confident, independent personalities, it may be torture to follow strict guidelines or rules, but their success depends on their developing the discipline required to do just that. What motivates them most powerfully is their need to master a topic or field. Many are quiet, unassuming individuals who may not be consciously aware of where they are headed. Although many are self­taught, sooner or later they will find it necessary to subject themselves to the rigorous requirements of a teacher, school, or other institution. It should be noted that they can be found in all walks of life, not just academia. On the other hand, they may find it difficult to buckle down to the absolute authority of a teacher or discipline. Instilling calm and respect for authority in themselves may prove daunting, but without these traits they will find it difficult or impossible to progress.

     With maturity, they often enjoy the security that the group or institution to which they belong brings them. Often they forsake early radicalism and become quite traditional, even conservative. For many, the structure afforded them by an institution gives them the time and facilities they need to pursue their work without interruption. One danger, of course, for them is that they may retreat from the world and become increasingly isolated from it. Stuffiness and pedantry are pitfalls to be avoided. Also, overblown ego and pride may be a problem, in the sense that they identify with their expertise in a given field so much that they ignore other points of view and become increasingly rigid or conceited.

     These individuals are likely to encounter at least one mentor or teacher in their lives, but ultimately such a figure, although revered, may have to be surpassed or rejected so that their own authority can be established without question. Feeling competitive with others, particularly when beginning their studies, will help them sharpen their ambitions but will have to be dropped at a certain point when it becomes counterproductive.

     These people are rarely sidetracked from their studies by too much human interaction. Having one faithful friend, fellow student, or coworker with whom they can share their joys and sorrows is usually all they require. Their preoccupation with their work or craft may prove problematic in love affairs or marriages. Still, many may be able to develop a stable domestic situation with an understanding mate and children, as long as their autocratic tendencies do not run out of hand. The extended family unit may prove the significant social point of interaction for them, and a lasting relationship with one parent or sibling can be highly beneficial and stabilizing.

     In describing those born during the Way of Study, one is reminded of the lives of certain spiritual masters, such as Buddha or Mohammed, who gave up involvement with the material aspects of life to penetrate more deeply into the meaning of life through prayer, fasting, and meditation. Only then were they ready to receive their deepest and most profound revelations. Similarly, these folks must, to an extent, isolate themselves and go inward in order to devote themselves to mastering their subject, only to shine the more brightly when they emerge.


        Rebelliousness and frustration may stand in the way of the higher development of those born during the Week of the Natural who make their way along the Way of Study. Though capable of finding the level of focus and dedication implied here, they will have to address their rather uncomfortable or ambiguous relationship with authority in general before they allow themselves to become authorities in a particular area. While they may fancy themselves entirely too fun-loving and adventurous to embark on a journey of apprenticeship or study in any given field, once they do so, they will find their efforts beautifully rewarded with a sense of security and grounding that may be otherwise lacking. Coming to better terms with their subject will surely put them into a better relationship with themselves, and once they allow illumination and enlightenment to shine through the lens of expertise, they are likely to enjoy the trip immensely.

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