You know, four years ago when I had my gall bladder removed, I
was pretty much incapacitated for eight weeks.
I needed to do something in my off time to pass the time while I healed.
One way I did that was by reading lots of stuff, either in book
form, or in online articles.
A couple of these articles were on first dates, and specifically
what men should never wear on a first date. Being someone who has trouble
securing second dates with people, let alone first dates, I read with interest,
wondering if maybe I was subconsciously doing something wrong.
Turns out some of their suggestions I tend to agree with.
Some I'm indifferent on. Some I outright disagree with. But, I
figure that I'd let YOU be the judge. Of course, I'm going to pipe in
with my own two cents on each of these articles of clothing and whether I agree
with the idea of them being worn on a FIRST date...but I'm interested in
reading some of your comments, because really, how they came up with this list
is something I find entertaining.
Ready? Let's go!
1. Pleated KHAKIS - Apparently the person who
wrote the first article said that khakis are okay, if you were going to a
junior high school dance, but not for a first date. I kind of have mixed
feelings about this. If I were to go on a first date, I'd probably end up
wearing dark wash jeans without holes or tears in them. But, that being
said, if my khakis were neatly pressed (and did not have pleats in them), I
don't see any reason why my date wouldn't like them...of course, I am just a
typical man here...what do I know? I say that they're fine...but again, I
prefer flat front. Pleated makes you look bigger than you really are, and
that I know from experience.
2. JOKE TEES - You know the
shirts I'm talking about. The ones that have cartoon characters on them,
or the ones that have swear words on them. Yeah, I agree that those
shirts are probably not a good idea to wear on a first date. Could you
just imagine taking a girl out on a date to a nice restaurant and wearing a
T-shirt that says "I'm With Stupid"? Yeah, there's a
deal-breaker there. Mind you, I happen to own a couple of T-shirts that
have cartoon characters on them, but I only ever wear them as sleepwear or
loungewear. Certainly not for a night on the town! I completely
agree.
3. TOO SHORT PANTS - I just want
to say right now that while I agree with this one too (I mean, what guy wants
to look like Steve Urkel on a date?), I also want to say that as someone who
stands at over six feet tall, finding pants is always a challenge for me.
More often than not, I have to wear pants with a 34-inch inseam, and most
stores only seem to carry 32-inch. Different brands offer different
interpretations of what a 32-inch inseam really is, and in some cases, I make
it work...but it takes a lot of experiementation. If ever you see me with
too-short pants, it's likely an experiment that didn't quite work. But,
yes, I will reserve my 34-inch inseams for the first date.
4. TURTLENECKS - I guess
they'd work if your first date was at a ski resort, but my personal preference
is that I really don't like them strangling my neck. Definitely not a
fan.
5. TIGHTY-WHITIES - Now, here's
one that I question. I get that to many women, tighty-whities are
anything but sexy, but to some guys, they bring comfort and support. And,
I mean, it's underwear. Whatever you wear underneath your jeans is really
up to the wearer's preference. But, again, these are suggestions for what
not to wear on a FIRST DATE. The chances of having sex on a first
date...well, I would think that they'd be pretty darn slim. And, if
that's the case, one could wear tighty-whities, boxer shorts, even go commando,
and nobody would care because unless you're totally drunk out of your mind, the
chances of a first date ending in a motel room are SLIM at best! Again,
some women may not find it sexy, but it's the FIRST DATE...who's gonna know?
As for what comes between me and my...um...Levis? That'll
have to wait until at least date #2. ;)
6. BOW-TIE - If you're
best man at a wedding, they can work. If you're Drew Carey, it can
work. If you're Archie Andrews in the 1950's, it can work.
Personally, I don't like bowties. Will never wear 'em.
7. NOVELTY TIES - I'm also the
type of guy who hates wearing ties in general...but if I have to wear one, I
must agree with this one. Wearing a Sylvester & Tweety tie to a first
date is almost as bad as wearing an "I'm With Stupid" shirt.
Just my opinion though.
8. TUXEDO - Don't most guys RENT these
things? And, even if you do own one, where would you wear a tuxedo?
Though, I must admit, it'd be pretty hysterical if a guy wore a tuxedo to
impress his date and the first date was mini golf. Mini golf in a
tuxedo...yep, there's a YouTube video right there.
9. TOUPEE - This is news?
10. MAKE-UP - I guess I'd
have to know what their definition of make-up is. If it were up to me,
I'd say things like blemish cream and face moisturizer are acceptable enough,
and quite possibly Chapstick, if your lips were dry. That being said, I
don't think women tend to go for guys who wear more make-up than THEY do.
Unless, of course, you're Gene Simmons from KISS...
11. SELF-TANNER - I'd only
recommend this look if you were a cast member of Jersey Shore.
Personally, I'm fine with being pasty white, and I would hope that my date
would feel the same way.
12. SLEEVELESS SHIRTS - I only put
this in because I don't know where there would be any sort of instance in which
wearing a sleeveless shirt on a first date would be appropriate. I
suppose it may work if you had your first date on a beach...or possibly a
gym. Somehow, I don't think it would be very romantic of a first date to
jog on a treadmill while listening to a Sweatin' To The Oldies soundtrack.
13. VEST - This is one I will fight you
on. I mean it. My personal style when I'm outside of a work
environment is something I like to call economic prep. In short, I kind
of dress like one of those Yuppie type people who can't afford Starbucks.
Would that make me a Guppie? Who knows? The point is, I have this
really awesome looking argyle vest that looks really great with jeans and a
plain T-shirt. It's also an outfit that I have been complimented on by
several people. Therefore, I completely disagree with the idea of a vest
being inappropriate for a first date look, because I've found a way that I can
make it work, and still look good.
14. SKINNY JEANS - It really
all depends on what your definition of skinny jean is. If your definition
of skinny jean is strangling your midsection and losing the feeling in your
legs...they're TOO TIGHT.
15. DIRTY CLOTHES - Unless you
got abducted by a garbage truck, or slipped in a mud puddle on your way to pick
up your date...this should be common sense!
16. WIFEBEATERS - Again, a
classic tank top style shirt (which is also known as the stupid term
wifebeater - seriously, I hate that term) is fine...provided you wear them as underwear like they were meant
to be. I'm pretty sure
that if I arrived for a first date just wearing one of these shirts, my date
would run the other way!
(For what it is worth, I prefer a V-neck myself.)
(For what it is worth, I prefer a V-neck myself.)
17. COLOGNE - I'm not
entirely against cologne or perfume. A couple of spritzes or dabs are
perfectly fine. Dumping the whole bottle over top of you...yeah, that's
never good.
18. EXCESSIVE BLING - I'm very
basic when it comes to jewelry. I just wear a watch, and that's it.
So, when I see guys that have watches, gold chains, piercings, rings,
earrings...I'm tempted to hold up a magnet just to see if they'll stick to
it. That would be entertaining.
19. PAJAMA PANTS - They're okay
if you're sick, recovering from surgery, or if you're sleeping. Not for a
date.
So, there you have it. Now it's your turn...do you
agree? Disagree? Have any other suggestions?
Of course, this is all for fun here. The real lesson is
that in my opinion, while I feel it best that you do make a great first
impression on a first date, once you meet the one that you love and fall in
love with, then it shouldn't matter what you wear or how you look. As
long as she loves you, she'll accept your joke tees, your novelty ties, and
your tighty-whities.
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